How to Know When a Relationship is Over
The end of a relationship is a hard moment for anyone. Sadly, however, it is something that the majority of us are going to have to endure before we find the right partner to settle down with. Understanding how to know when a relationship is over can make the end of a relationship much easier to handle. Unfortunately not every person that we decide to date is the right one for us; part of finding the right person is experimenting. We usually have to experience a few different relationships to know that we’ve finally met the right person. It’s natural to have second thoughts about a relationship and below are some of the more common signs that you probably aren’t compatible for each other in the long term.
Signs a Relationship is Ending
Ultimately you will normally have a gut feeling yourself when you feel that a relationship might be over. There are many tell tale signs a relationship is ending and although you may not be at the stage of having a gut feeling, it’s worth reviewing the points we’ve listed below. If you recognise a couple then perhaps the alarm bells should start ringing.
You don’t have much in common: One of the common failures of many relationships is that the two people involved are attracted by shallow qualities. It is very easy to fall for the best looking boy or girl in the class, however looks are not something you can build a relationship on in the long run. If you are finding that you do not have anything in common with your partner then it is probably time to begin rethinking the relationship. Your partner should make you laugh and should share some common interests with you. If you are both interested in completely different things and as a result you don’t particularly enjoy spending time with one another it may be time to accept the relationship is over.
Your partner has started to become very distant: When one person in the relationship starts to act distantly, it is sometimes a sign that they are no longer interested in the relationship. Of course there are many other reasons why a partner might become distant but the harsh reality is that they may simply no longer wish to be with you. If a partner stops wanting to speak to you on the phone, starts to blow off your dates and generally seems indifferent towards you then there is probably a good chance the relationship is coming to an end. Even if they still want to be with you, do you really want to be with someone who treats you like that?
The spark has gone: A spark in a relationship is a very important factor. The spark is what keeps you attracted to each other, what distinguishes you from just being friends and what keeps the relationship exciting. It is a sad fact that sometimes relationships just lose this spark and you fall into a rut. When the spark goes it is important to try and get it back. Make sure you discuss your worries with your partner and do what you can to fix it. Ultimately, however, if you can’t get that spark back then it could be a compelling reason to end the relationship and look elsewhere. Your partner should keep you feeling exciting and attractive and not just a friend. As soon as you start to fall into the trap of acting like friends and not being romantic it can sometimes spell the end of a relationship.
Constant arguing: Arguing is a very natural part of a relationship. Couples have to argue and it is sometimes healthy to get a problem off your chest. However, constant arguing can spell the downfall of any relationship. Some people are just naturally argumentative and a lot of successful couples argue frequently, however if one day out of the blue you suddenly begin arguing, it could mean that you have both out grown each other. It is important to work out what you want in a relationship; if you don’t mind arguing and you are quite an argumentative person then perhaps this is an acceptable part of the relationship. If, however, you don’t want to argue but you seem to be bickering endlessly then you need to rethink whether you are the right people for each other. Sometimes two individuals just aren’t compatible despite the early sparks of excitement.
You are no longer attracted to them: Though this sounds like a harsh point it is valid nonetheless. In order for a relationship to work, you have to be attracted to your partner. The mistake many people make is thinking that this is only relies on looks. You should be attracted to your partners’ personality, looks and everything else about them. Sometimes you can find that you are no longer attracted to your partner because throughout the time you have known them they have changed. This is a very clear sign that the relationship is actually over and is one of the most common causes of breakups. As we get older, we change a great deal. Sometimes the person we are with does not change with us and we start to find we no longer have much in common. It is a harsh reality but you shouldn’t hold on to something that is no longer there.
Ending a relationship is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Try not to break up with your partner on the spur of the moment or because of other issues in your life that are getting you down. Make sure you sleep on big decisions and think rationally before acting.